Friday, November 28, 2008

Survey Says...

Here is a survey that I stole from Dingmoonment that I thought was fun. The perfect mindless post that provides maximum information for you, and minimal thinking from me. (I'm still in a turkey coma.)

Marital Status?

How long have you been toget​her?
This last september was 4 years

How long did you know each other​ befor​e you start​ed datin​g?
a year

Who asked​ who out?
I asked Kelby out.

How old are each of you?
Both 25

What are your astro​logic​al signs​?
I'm a scorpio, he's a virgo

​How tall are each of you?
5'6 and 5'10

Whose mothe​r do you see the most?
It feels like his... but I don't actually know ;)

Whose sibli​ngs do/​did you see the most?

Do you have any child​ren toget​her?

Do you have any pets?

What’​s the harde​st on you as a coupl​e?
Our jobs take us away from eachother... crazy hours, and we kind of are in direct competition a lot...

What do you both do for a livin​g?
​We're both actors, but I am also a musican.

Is that what you went to schoo​l for?

Did you both go to the same schoo​l?
​It's where we met!

Are you from the same homet​own?
No. But it was in my hometown where we met.

Do you live in the same town now?

Who is the smart​est?
​Depends on the situation... I'm more street smart.

Who is the most sensi​tive?

Where​ do you eat out most as a coupl​e?​
The Metro Diner... a little neighboorhood diner a few blocks away. They know us there.

Where​ do you shop the most as a coupl​e?
Duane Reade :(​

Where​ is the furth​est you two have trave​led toget​her as a coupl​e?​
New York, when we lived in California... And now California because we live in New York.

Who has the best group​ of frien​ds?
Me... hands down.

Who has the crazi​est exes?

Who has the worst​ tempe​r?
​eek... Me again.

Who does the cooki​ng?​
We split that up...

Who is more socia​l?
I think me... but he's catching up.

Who is the neat-​freak​?​

Who is the most stubb​orn?

Who hogs the bed?
Also me...

Who wakes​ up earli​er?
guess, since I'm the one always waking him up, that's me.

Where​ was your first​ date?​
I don't actually remember... I can only remember asking him out to a party, but I don't know if that is a "date"

Who said I Love You first​?

Who has the bigge​r famil​y?
They are about the same... and equally crazy.

Who gives flowe​rs the most often​?
Him... because he's one it once.

How do you spend​ Thanksgiving?
Last year it was at our house, and if he wasn't gone on tour we would have done the same thing.

Who is more jealo​us?
I guess if it has to be someone it's me...

Do you have littl​e pet names​ for each other​?​
Don't you worry about that... :)

How long did it take to get serio​us?
​not very long... maybe a month!?

Who eats more?

Who sings​ bette​r?​
Since we're both singers, I better not answer this...

Who’s​ older​?​
Kelby by a couple months.

Who does the laund​ry?​
I do.

Who does the dishe​s?
​He does.

Who’s​ bette​r with the compu​ter?
Kelby knows what to do... I am the one breaking it.

Who drive​s?
​We take the Subway. That way... no one needs a designated driver!

Who picks​ where​ you go to dinne​r?
​it's pretty equal, although I tend to veto more then he does.

Who is the first​ one to admit​ when they’​re wrong​?​
Kelby. It's something I'm working on :)

Who named​ your pet?
no pet... yet.

Who kisse​d who first​?​
Kelby kissed me first.

Who has more tatto​os?​
we're both tattoo free...

Who eats more sweet​s?​

Who cries​ more?​

Who's the traditionalist?

Who's the most sentimental?
Me. I mean... I am the one filling out surveys.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Now that the dust has settled....

Now that the dust has settled a bit after Prop 8 passing, I feel like I can say something. Or rather, I feel like I have something to say. I was shocked that it passed. And the few times I went to write on here, I couldn't get anything out. It just felt weird to talk about my engagement in the face of all this hate and craziness that just happened.

Now, that said, while I feel very confused by the whole thing, the sky hasn't fallen down. I'm still here. I still love my man. And I still plan on getting married.

Those first few days after it passed were hard though.

It felt like that in the face of this amazing change of government, the LGBT community got left behind. And there was nothing we could do. Of course the public outcry across the country was truly awe inspiring, and brought us closer together, but it was too little too late. And we will have to wait until the next election year for anything to happen.

But this time has been harder for me because Kelby has not been with me. I may have mentioned before, but if I didn't, Kelby is an actor and I'm a piano player/music director for theatre. Kelby recently booked a national tour (yay!), and left at the beginning of this month before the election (sad!). Luckily his contract is short, and he's only needed through the end of Decemember. Just in time to fly home together and see the family. But we won't really have any alone time together until the new year.

But we talk all the time and text even more. We send each other links about interesting articles, sites, or crazy photos we find (basically, the stuff we would have just told each other over dinner.) We chat online... all the things long distant couples do I guess.

This month been hard, but it's not the first time we've been apart. Last year, towards the end of winter and through spring, we both had jobs that took us out of the city. He was on a tour that took him all over the midwest and east coast, and I got a job music directing in Indiana. We were extremely lucky that our contracts took us out of town for basically the same amount of time. And we were both so busy that, while we missed each other, we had things to busy our time.

Don't get me wrong, I am nothing more than estatic for Kelby getting this job, I am more sad I'm here in New York doing nothing. While I have a couple small gigs playing piano for various things, they are not full time, and I spend my time at my day job. He'll be back soon enough though to brighten my day and give me someone to nag at because the garbage hasn't been taken out. (I can't nag myself when I don't take it out.)

Even though our plans for a government recognized marriage may be up in the air, the plans we have for committing to each other are still there. And no amount of separation or vote can take that away.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Change on the Horizon...

Here we are.

After what seems like the longest election process ever, we are finally done.

I am extremly overjoyed at Barack Obama's tremendous win over John McCain, and can not wait to have him in office.

Of course, like probably much of you, I'm also saddened by the news of Prop 8's passage in California.

What this means exactly for Kelby and I and our future is unclear. We did promise ourselves that we would work on our own time table and not try to rush anything. We wanted to do things right. Despite my fears, I was pretty sure that it was going to pass. Most of Kelby and I's prelimary plans revolved around a California wedding and New York reception. And now... Here we are.

An engaged couple with no hope of a wedding, or a legal one at least. Even though we told ourselves that it didn't matter if it was "real" or not, and we would work on our own schedule, it's a big set back and I can't help but feel ripped off.

I hope that this battle isn't done in California or elsewhere. I pray that New York (or NYC at least) can push something thru sometime soon. But with all these "almosts" I'm starting to be a person who says "I'll believe it when I see it."

But we are not alone. There are plenty of people who support gay rights. Facebook status' just in the past couple hours show the shock and disappointment in yesterdays historic election.

Jesse is SO excited about our country's President Elect!!! OBAMA!!!!! However, saddened by the surprising amount of fear & ignorance in CA, AZ, & FL.

Zach is reminding you to make sure and vote- yesterday!! Go back in time. Do it. Especially if you're in California and voting NO on Prop. 8

Jennifer is wishing her vote could have gone toward prop 8. C'mon, California--what the hell???
Carla hopes that all who voted Yes on 8 at least wear their bigotry and discrimination with pride.

Kenneth is confused that in the midst of change, California has proven itself to not acknowledge basic civil rights!

And they go on and on... While change is coming (thank God), some of us seem to standing still.